So I am 48, married with kids. I am just kind of venting as I feel really stupid.
I have a group of friends that have a smaller circle within that are closer with each other than I am to them. I get it it’s fine. I have fun with them sometimes, they drink a lot but I’m not really close to them and sometimes I feel really lonely around them.
Last night we are having drinks at the one woman’s house for her bday. My husband’s 50th is coming up and I am planning on a small party for him with these neighbor friends. I mentioned that I cannot invite 2 other couples in the neighborhood because there was some drama between their girls and they aren’t talking anymore.
These 2 couples are friends with my husband and I seperate from this other group. One woman was like oh tell me what happened! I did not want to tell them even though I know because they are friends of mine and I don’t want to talk about their daughters to these other people. My daughter is also friends with the 2 girls, even though she’s not a part of this drama, but it has affected her.
I shouldn’t have mentioned it but was explaining why I could not invite them to my husbands party, the 2 moms haven’t talked in over a year.
I didn’t tell them any more about it and was trying to stop talking about it and another mom calls her daughter over who was there and asks in front of everybody, tell us why are E and M are not talking anymore? This girl has not been kind to my daughter over the years. I say to this mom, Don’t do that. The girl comes over and says oh E and M talk all the time. There’s nothing crazy going on. Then there was this big awkward silence and everybody stared at me to see what I would say. I didn’t say anything. Night continued.
I am wondering do I sound stupid? Did it look like I lied about it? Not certain if everybody thought I was mad at the one mom for asking her daughter. I’m trying not to worry about it but it has been taking up my head space. I feel like I did something wrong like I was gossiping about my other friends. I didn’t say anything because I wasn’t going to talk about what happened with them.