I know there’s a million posts about being ghosted, but would still appreciate some insights and perspective..
I’d d been dating someone (26m) for roughly a month, not long I know. He was the first person I actually allowed myself to be open and vulnerable with in years, and the only person I’d even kissed since my ex. Our chemistry and connection was wildly strong and it was easy to picture myself with him.
Problem is, I’m moving far away in a few months and had told him that before we met. He knew I was initially only looking for a fwb situation, with emphasis on still having an actual connection.
We talked in depth every single day, and constantly told one another how into and attracted we were to each other. I tried to be supportive as he was dealing with family loss and sickness right after. We had plans coming up to do things together and spend the night with each other etc. I was so excited.
Our plans got messed up because I had a moment of poor communication, which I fully owned and apologized for, but after that it seemed his pattern shifted and he started taking longer to reply.
Last Friday when I was trying to clarify my poor communication via lengthy text. He responded saying he is also to blame for not clarifying, and that he wanted to see me too, but the idea of falling for me even more only for me to move away and him getting hurt made him extremely anxious and therefore super avoidant. He said he is working on managing those feelings better.
That’s the last I heard from him. I had responded in depth and said it scares me too but I want to enjoy our time to the fullest and give into whatever happens with him, etc etc..
After it was clear he was not going to respond I sent a couple of thoughtful goodbye texts, but I’m still really struggling with these feelings of abandonment and confusion. I know I can’t force closure and it’s out of my control, but I’m having such a hard time fully letting go. We had such a strong connection 😔
I’m just so sad. I have a really, really hard time connecting with people like that. I want to reach out again so, so badly.
Thanks for reading..