Okay so, I always hear people saying that having hobbies makes you less boring and I guess I've always had hobbies I've been doing like sculpting, writing stories and like playwright scripts on characters I made or charecters from games and reading classical literature and fantasy fiction and books set in the Victorian era, and painting with watercolours and acrylic paints. I like writing a lot, researching historical events, and learning about new topics and Im trying to learn a new language (dutch) to surprise a close person who speaks it. But I don't feel like when I'm in conversation or trying to make conversation that any of that really has an impact on how I appear to people. I don't do it for others of course, I like to fill up free time doing what I like which are things that I consider to be my hobbies, but even so I feel like an incredibly boring person when I'm with other people.
Im not sure at all how to go about conversation, I was taught to just be 'nice' in mannerism but nice isn't really enough if you're trying to befriend new people. I compliment them too, but I feel like its in very generic ways.. I have no idea how to weave interesting topics into conversations with people because a lot of them seem very dry when talking to but that could also be because they don't know how to talk to me either.. Also I really want to be able to talk to others normally because I basically don't know or talk to anyone in my new classes and I think that if I keep being alone they'll think I'm a weirdo or that I don't want to talk to other people. But I do. People always say you need to get more hobbies to be interesting but I always feel boring no matter what I do. I also want to learn more about them but when I ask, they usually don't say they do anything for hobbies so then idk what to say to that. Or maybe they just don't want to tell me 😞 I feel like I'm forcing them to talk to me, the only thing people seem to commonly talk about is gossip or things im not aware of (such as things that happened in their other classes that im not in). Like one person I know was talking to her classmates and all sitting together at lunch but they're all in the same class talking about stuff happening in that class, and im not so I didn't speak at all since I barely knew what they were talking about, and the only person I did know asked me later why I was so quiet. I didn't know what to say at all, how do you input in conversations where you lack knowledge of. This was probably kind of a vent-y thing too, but yeah, how do you go about having conversations of substance with people you barely know.