Hey Guys!
I’m in my early 20s and just started my career. I grew up a bit shy/reserved and didn’t socialize much during college, especially with female classmates.
Some people assumed it was arrogance or ego, but honestly, I just didn’t know how to start a conversation.
I’m from the 2020–24 “Covid batch,” and online classes totally ruined the chance to socialize. Texting anyone felt awkward and even creepy at times. When I finally went to college in person after 3 months of online classes, everyone already seemed to know each other — I felt left out.
I did try to talk to a classmate from my school in the first year, but she seemed uninterested, and I kind of gave up after that. My close group was 5 guys, none of us really had girlfriends, and since they weren’t very social either, it became my environment too.
Now that I’m trying to be more confident and open up, I’ve realized how little I interacted with girls all these years.
My mom’s planning to arrange a marriage by the time I’m 25 or 26 (which is just a couple of years away 😅), and I don’t want to go into that phase without having basic comfort and understanding in conversations.
I’m not looking for dating or anything weird — just normal conversations, perspectives, and maybe some recommendations for communities where people are genuine.
Any advice on how to open up more socially in the city would really help.
P.S. This isn’t a thirst post — just trying to work on myself and connect with normal people.