So,I(F25) met this guy (M32) almost 3 months ago and there was instant chemistry. Since then, we’ve gone on a bunch of dates. Things have moved pretty fast, after about a month we slept together. He’s honestly the sweetest and most affectionate guy I’ve ever met. He’s consistent, keeps his word, super respectful, and we talk every day.
Our dates aren’t just about sex, he always wants to go out, try new places, grab food, go out to restaurants etc. It really feels like we’re a couple in every sense because he treats me like his girlfriend. But the thing that’s been bothering me is that it’s been almost 3 months and he still hasn’t said anything about “what we are.”
I’ve tried to bring it up subtly a few times but I’ve never had the guts to ask him directly lol, mostly because I really like him and I’m scared I won’t get the answer I want. From what I know, he’s not the type who just messes around, he doesn’t like one-night stands and he’s always been in serious relationships. His last one lasted 8 years.
He’s said a few things that kind of imply we’re exclusive, and he makes future plans with me (he wants to travel with me and we already have tickets for a concert in a few months). But I still don’t know if he actually considers me his girlfriend. Honestly, I do see that he’s into me and I think his answer would probably be yes, but I can’t help feeling uncertain.
He’s also someone who really values his independence and personal space (so do I, so that part’s fine), but the fact that he hasn’t brought it up himself makes me doubt things a bit. He’s also pretty shy and not great at communicating — most of the time I’m the one making the effort. That’s something I think we’d need to work on together.
So, when’s a good time to ask him about it, and how can I bring it up without making him feel pressured? I really like this guy, but if we’re not on the same page, I don’t want to keep investing more energy and end up getting hurt later.