Hello everyone. I don't really know where to post this.
I've been talking to someone for over a year now. We're both in our thirties and we don't live in the same country. To be honest, it was just nice to have someone to talk to. I wasn’t planning on dating and was more focused on myself, but that “connection” was still nice to have. We shared a lot of things, and I guess, over time, a friendship bond formed.
A few days ago, she visited a country close to mine and suggested we meet in person.
Well, I went, because I was curious and needed to think about something other than work — and it was really great! She’s one of the nicest and kindest people I’ve ever met.
There was just one thing I hadn’t planned: I think I fell in love at first sight.
I’d never experienced anything like that before. As soon as I saw her, I felt like I’d been hit by a truck. I don’t know — she just had that something that made me head over heels for her. I always thought that kind of thing was bullshit, but it seems to exist after all.
But obviously, it’s not the same on her side. I won’t go into details, but it’s clearly not reciprocated.
Of course, I’m sad, but that’s life — you can’t make someone love you. Not in that way, at least.
We still talk, but I don’t want to keep the conversation going. I don’t hold any grudges against her — I wish her nothing but the best. It’s just that I can’t stay friends with someone I have feelings for.
I’m not the kind of man to make a big speech, so I’d like things to end calmly and gradually, so I can close that small chapter of my life and move on.
I’m considering slowly fading out of contact. I don’t know if it’s the right move or not.
Yes, I know — a grown man should know better… I’m just thinking of keeping our conversations light, not reviving them too much, and letting things fade naturally.
Any advice?