Hi everyone, this is a new account to keep this separate from my main. I’m a 31 yr old woman who recently got out of an 8-year marriage and just got into casual sex.
I’ve recently slept with three different men, and each of them put their hands around my neck without asking. None of them choked me very hard, but I was a little thrown off that they didn’t check with me first. I am actually okay with light choking during sex, so I would have said yes, but is it common nowadays to not ask? I felt too uncomfortable to say anything in the moment so I allowed it, so should I say anything before having sex with any of them again even if I’m technically fine with it?
Otherwise these guys seem nice and caring, they all 3 even asked for permission before kissing me the first time, so why not choking? Am I crazy and this is actually a big red flag that I shouldn’t have sex with any of them again? Help me understand hook up culture please.