To explain the situation, little bit long TD;LR at the bottom: we met at work and usually see each other once a week on Saturdays. We got along really well right from the start — there was instant chemistry, and she was actually the one who asked to exchange numbers.
The issue is that because of her religion and background, her family would never accept our relationship. She knew that from the beginning but still chose to get closer to me, even though she knew I wasn’t looking for something casual. I wanted something serious.
Things went on for about three months, and it was honestly great. But then she ended things after her friend found out about us and thought I was the one who told her. A few weeks later, we met again and talked things through.
I told her how I felt, and she admitted she had feelings too. We decided to give it another try, and for about a week everything felt normal again — she told me she missed me, wanted to kiss me, and all that. Then suddenly, a day before we were supposed to meet, she said she didn’t know what she wanted anymore.
When I asked her to explain, she said she couldn’t be in a relationship because her family would never accept me, and she just knows that. I can’t even mention her background publicly, because I’m not sure if it could somehow affect me too.
After I told her I love her, she stayed in the chat for about ten minutes without saying anything. Then out of nowhere, she sent me around ten messages in a row and explained how she wants to be in a good relationship with me at work.
At work, we still see each other and maintain a good relationship. What confuses me is how warm she still acts — she smiles, jokes around, and sometimes even seeks physical closeness.
I don’t want to label her as a bad person, because it might be that she only wanted something temporary but ended up catching feelings. Still, it’s been difficult to process everything while seeing her regularly.
Right now, I’m trying to figure out how to handle this situation at work in a healthy way — especially since there are still emotions involved and mixed signals that make things harder to move on from.
I’m really confused and don’t know if it would be better for keep distance from her at work and don’t give her the attention. Maybe I’m simple blind and don’t see that she just wanted attention 🤷🏼♂️ any advice will be appreciated 🫶🏽
I really would like to sent her a message and tell her in a friendly way that all the time she knew it wouldn’t work but still decided to be with me and it would be better to keep distance and block her. But yesterday at work it wasn’t that it deeply affected me but I had really much fun with her… joking around and laugh together…
TD;LR : We met at work, got really close, and had great chemistry. She knew from the start that her family wouldn’t accept me because of religion and background, but we still got involved for a few months. Things ended when her friend found out, then we tried again — but she backed off, saying her family would never allow it and said sorry for the situation and wants to be in a good relationship with me.