I don't know what else to say or how to put it. I'm just tired of the rat race. Tired of the city. Tired of being a manager. But I have kids to feed and nurture, and I can't just usurp their lives.

I rear ended someone a few days ago in a company vehicle. Nobody was hurt thank God, but it's got me feeling like I'm just going too hard and I have to slow down.

Maybe I'm just overworked. Anyways, thanks for reading 👍

Edit: Thanks everyone for the replies. I appreciate all of your perspectives and advice; I definitely need to chill out. Thank you.


12 comments

  1. Prioritize a vaction stat. At least 10 days. Even if its staycation. This is what PTO is needed for. You cant focus on your life and execute when youre fried. Its better for you and your employer and your kids that you take a breather.

  2. I hear that. Working two jobs while my wife finishes grad school. We finally moved into basically nearly our dream home and it feels all worth it going to work everyday because I no longer have squirrels in my ceiling. But really all it gets me is burn out plus guilt because I have everything I could ever wanted so fuck me how can I complain?

  3. Take some time off and recoup. If married talk to the wife and see if you can get some you time do your favorite things

  4. Maybe start thinking long term about career change.

    Work less whete possible, sort out your sleep and family time

  6. I have a friend who decided he was going to become a rich guy and worked and worked and worked until he was exhausted. Did this for years. One day he fell asleep in his way home (hour long commute at like 4 am.) and drive into the ditch, hit a tree and wrecked his brand new truck up real good. That should have been his warning that he was working himself too hard. A couple months later, I got a message from another friend that this guy had accidentally crossed the middle line and hit another car head on. He killed the driver of the other car. He’s now doing 16 years in prison.

    It sounds like you are definitely working yourself too hard and the warning signs of exhaustion are present. Listen to them.

  8. I was too. Decided to start my own business. Kinda always knew I would.

    Normally I’d recommend it for you, but I’m also burned the fuck out, maybe moreso.

    People out here are fuckers, so many shitty clients and prospects. These entrepreneurs aren’t held to the same Corp rules, many are their own boss and don’t want to hear or take any direction.

    So… just try and find non work thing that bring you joy. Know that your world is bigger than work. Stop comparing. You aren’t alone. We are goanna make it, somehow.

  10. I felt really burned out. Now after 4 months off (laid off) I feel a lot better. If you can’t swing a long medical leave it’s time to start working out where you can get some very regular time for rest.

    There were other things that were having an effect. Not enough sleep, not enough exercise, overstimulation (screens) and too much caffeine (caffeine really contributed to the constant feeling of anxiety). But the number one thing is rest.

  11. I’m going through something similar. I work in IT at one of the largest and most profitable companies in the world. I make more money than I ever thought I was capable yet I’m fucking MISERABLE. I’m so tired of this bullshit. I’m very close to using some of my retirement to pay off existing debt so I can take a much lower stress job that I actually WANT while living a comfortable life.

  12. In the same spot. Here’s the advice I’ve been given.

    Imagine your life is a series of buildings. There’s the man, the husband, the father, the manager. Each of these need resources to keep going.

    Work out what those resources are, even the primary “currency”, and find how to get these. Often it’s doing this with say your wife to help work out how to honor each other’s needs, particularly the foundational currency of the man (who you are). That in turn helps fuel the remainder.

    Does it work in practice? It’s early days for me but looking positive.

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