I am looking for some sort of advice or encouragement here. I’ve been single the past three years and it’s really starting to weigh on me. I was in a long term relationship until I turned 27 & really did not have much interest in dating for the first 1.5 years of being single. I knew I had a lot of work to do on myself. Since my breakup, I’ve lost 55lbs, ran marathons, moved across the country, doubled my salary, got my own apartment and new car, and made a huge group of friends. I’ve also worked hard on issues I had in my past relationships such as communication and emotional intelligence.
I was convinced once I resolved some issues I had, I would have not have many issues finding a partner. Boy, was I wrong. I have been actively using dating apps for the past 1.5 years and have had a lot of dates but nothing has stuck. I’ve also met people in person through my gym and playing pickleball. Nothing has stuck with organic relationships either. Is it normal to have to date this many people to find someone?? I feel like I am the only one out of my friends who has gone out with many people yet no real relationship. Like many people, it is so hard watching everyone else move forward and you feel like you’re completely left behind.
I do feel like it’s been a little tougher for me since I have been through the wringer with my previous relationships & really value someone who has worked on themselves. I do not put up with a ton of BS but I will always give someone a second chance.
Does anyone have some sort of advice or encouragement for someone in this situation? I am really starting to feel like giving up.