I (22M) have been with my partner (23F) for over four years and we’ve been and still are extremely happy with each other. We met sometime in college and since getting into a relationship we spent every waking moment together, spent every night together, and did everything we possibly could together, attached at the hip. I loved it and they make me the happiest I’ve ever been, I can’t look around my area without remembering a time we did this or that or just a mundane thing we liked to.
We’re young and our relationship is still so as well but we are genuinely committed to each other and want to spend our future together. The problem here lies completely with me. Due to the nature of their work, they’re essentially gone Monday-Friday. Travel days being Monday and Friday with the possibility of working a half day on those days. Other weeks they might be flown out on a Sunday or get back in on Saturday or midnight. Or they could be sent out on a longer (10 day) project, each week it’s different.
For their next project they get back in the middle of the day on Friday after working a half day and then gets only Saturday off (we have a lot of plans that were already made) and then she flys out at 6am on Sunday. The then flys back in two weeks later at midnight on my birthday.
I am genuinely happy that my partner found a job and is getting hours but it’s left me really struggling being away from them. I don’t blame my partner nor hold any resentment, this is just the nature of the job, they handle all of the scheduling and travel for them employees. I’m working on accepting change as that’s something I’ve always struggled with but I went from having them all the time to getting random weekends and it just has me down. I miss her beyond words and have been crying knowing how little I’m going to get to see them for the foreseeable future.
I don’t want them to quit their job, I’m genuinely happy they have it and they’re getting hours, but I just really want my partner around again.
I’m not willing to leave them whatsoever. This job is temporary for all I know and it’s going towards our move in the next year. It’s an amazing thing for them and their career but it’s really shown me how reliant I am on them.
Sorry for the slight rambling, I’m still very down about all of this and needed to get it out and hopefully get some advice.
TL;DR
My partner is working an amazing job that has them away for a week or two at a time leaving parts of weekends. I’m really struggling with them being gone so often but them getting a different job is out of the question.