Sorry for the wall of text but I want to be as descriptive as possible. Happy to provide more info.
Wife and I have been together for 10 years and no matter how much time passes, she is always feeling awkward. I might just be sensitive to this but she deals with awkwardness by cracking jokes which is something I’ve tried to learn to ignore but it doesn’t do well for my drive.
I’ve tried to introduce a very LIGHT dom/sub dynamic at times to see if that might cut it out but honestly, just makes it worse. She is not only awkward as a sub but becomes uncomfortable with it. Which obviously is not how you want your partner to feel at all. I’ve thought about maybe reversing the roles and trying to get her in a more dominant role but idk if that would work either for her. I am vers so it’d be good for me either way.
She grew up going to private catholic school and sex (and even just personal body stuff)in her household was never spoken of. So I assume that this probably has somthing to do with it. For me though, I’ve always been sexual and even though I don’t have as much confidence in the bedroom as I should, it doesn’t hold me back.
TLDR: Wife awkward in bed, husband wants to cut that out. Any tips?