I already feel like the asshole. But anyway we’ve been together 8 years. I picked out a ring and he ordered it a few weeks ago. The way the ring was presented to me was genuinely exciting! I came home to a new anime figure while he was on a discord call. He muted himself while I discovered he hid the ring inside a compartment and looked up from his gaming chair and asked if I wanted to marry him, of course I said yes! He then unmuted himself and asked if I wanted to join him and his friends in battlefield.
I asked if this was official and he asked if I wanted it to be, my consideration seemed to offend him. I told him I had at least wanted him on one knee, as we had talked about in the past, and he doesn’t remember talking about that. He’s since seems upset. I feel bad for upsetting him but at the same time, I also feel upset.
The more I think about it the more the discord thing upsets me too, like at the very least he could have hung up? I didn’t even know one of the people in the call and they knew what was happening, which I don’t know why that upsets me really. I guess I feel like I was proposed to in front of people? Even though it was in the comfort of our own home it didn’t feel private. He immediately unmuted and went back to the call.
Anyway, there’s a rift now and I told him obviously he doesn’t have to ask again but I feel bad for not considering his feelings. I took the ring off to do dishes and put it back in the plastic bag it was presented in and he hid it so now I don’t know what’s happening.
TL;DR: I wasn’t totally pleased with the informality of how my boyfriend proposed and now idk what to do.