I learned that people have double standards and some can't put themselves to the expectations they set for others. The people in the chat kept saying how I don't check in on them. and for me I'm thinking okay but you also don't check in on me? What's the problem here. I said I was sorry for the lack of communcation and no one could accept it. I was like okay so if there is no space for forgiveness then what's the point of the conversation? Another social skill I learned, don't bite the dog back.