My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now, and lately things have just felt off. She’s been super dry with me every time we talk. It’s always short answers like “huh” or “okay,” and most of the time she’s either on her phone or says she’s sleepy. But when she talks to her family, she’s suddenly full of energy, laughing, joking, actually happy.
What really gets me is that even when she talks to my brother, she seems cheerful and comfortable. She laughs in a way she never laughs with me anymore. But when I bring it up, she says she doesn’t even like him, which makes no sense. Why would you want to talk to someone you claim you dislike, and be that happy doing it?
With me, she barely has anything to say. I’m always the one trying to start conversations or keep them going. She expects me to sweet talk her when she’s falling asleep, and if I don’t, she gets irritated and says “I’m about to sleep” and just ignores me. It’s like no matter what I do, she doesn’t put in the same effort anymore.
I honestly feel like I’m talking to a brick wall. She doesn’t laugh with me like she used to, doesn’t ask about my day, doesn’t seem excited to talk to me at all. But when it’s other people, she lights up. I’m starting to feel like I’m the only one trying to hold this relationship together while she’s slowly checking out.
I don’t know what to do anymore. Should I tell her straight up how distant she’s been acting, or would that just make things worse? I still care about her a lot, but it’s starting to feel one-sided, and it honestly hurts. TL;DR