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  1. I can tell that one of the new guys at work is a little bit interested in me. He’s really smiley, jokes a lot, asks me a lot of questions, brings me little things he thinks I’ll like, a little light teasing. I think we do have quite a similar sense of humour and some other shared quirks. I like feeling curious about someone! It’s really been a very long time since I felt that, especially about someone who also seems curious about me. It’s put a little pep in my step over the last week, and that’s all I’m taking from it šŸ˜…

  2. *looks aroundā€

    Helloā€¦.anybody here?? Itā€™s all so very quiet in here.

    Hope everyone had/is gonna have a nice weekend. After a week of being busy with exercise and work shit, itā€™s been a blissfully chilled weekend here! Cheeseburgers were consumed, M&Ms were eaten.

    Happy weekend all!

  3. Went to a party, had a nice time at the party and as I was about to leave, the host said that they’re having another party the following week that a mutual friend of ours may go to. I stopped breathing for a second, because this friend meant a lot to me, but a lot of stuff had gone down (sad, tragic stuff šŸ˜”) and they fell off the grid for many years and apparently didn’t resurface until like 4 months prior? Leading up, I couldn’t eat or sleep I was so excited to see them again.

    I basically barreled into the party carrying a shitload of gifts and the second I laid eyes on my friend I just blurted out “I am so happy to see you” then practically tackled them with hugs and the gifts. Beautiful as ever, married, pregnant, *happy*. Just over the moon we are in each other’s lives again.

  4. i’m curious about the whole hinge standouts feature.

    obviously people complain about having to buy roses to be able to send likes to standouts, and “rose jail” and all that. ime even if i do send a rose i’ve never had a standout message back.

    but like… doesn’t it also end up working out badly for people who end up in standouts? or i don’t really get how they pick who is in standouts, but it seems like if you’re often in people’s standouts you are actually being kept away from potential good matches who don’t want to pay to send a rose. but i also don’t really get how they pick standouts in the first place since it sounds like you have to have a certain level of people swiping right on you (which wouldn’t be happening if you’re always in rose jail).

    people have also mentioned that if you don’t send a rose to your standouts they eventually end up in the “general pile” but actually i haven’t really seen that happen for me.

    anyway i’m sure they have their algorithm worked out, i’m just bitter about not getting attention

  5. Curious from women who have done this and from men about what their opinions are on it.

    I went on a second date with someone Friday night. We went on a first date a while ago but it faded after and neither of us really pursued it.

    Months later we ran into each other at a bar and I asked him why he didnā€™t ask me on another date. He said ā€œthe first date went so well it freaked me outā€ but also in his defense he did injure his foot pretty badly and hadnā€™t been able to walkā€¦

    Anyways, after that run in he began to pursue me. He sent me food while I was recovering from surgery and checked in regularly.

    Fast forward we have our date Friday night and itā€™s great! We had so much fun, I feel really comfortable with him and we kissed at the end.

    Originally (before our second date) he had mentioned wanting me to meet his friends Sunday at an event his friend bought tickets for. I said tbd but then Friday he said that his friend didnā€™t buy enough tickets and he might not even be going. I was skeptical but then he offered to show me the texts. I said I didnā€™t need to see them. Just him offering was enough.

    Anyways, we have been texting ever since and itā€™s been very normal. Equal effort in keeping the convo going etc. but no mention of another dateā€¦

    I want to ask him on another date for when I get back from work travel this week. I was thinking Iā€™d make a joke about how the date went so well I wanted to make sure he didnā€™t run away again.

    My question is, has any woman in here been the one to pursue the guy more and it been a positive?

    For the men, how would you feel about a woman doing that?

    I struggle between my assertive side and wanting to let a man lead/wanting to be pursued/feel wanted.

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