I met up with someone from a dating site and he turned out to be the most incredible and gentlemanly man I had ever met. He took me out to an expensive dinner for our first date and then paid for the movies – it was a really good night.
We decided to see each other again a weekend later. We vibed so incredibly well. We had things in common, he seemed very mature and put together. We both have stable, well-paying jobs, we both work out, have good and stable family views and relationships, educations, and humor. I was planning our next date with board games, a home cooked meal and beers.
I started falling pretty quickly for this man. He bought me gorgeous flowers on the second date. I have to admit, we were intimate pretty early on (he initiated). The chemistry between us was just incredible and I'm a fairly s*xual person so I was down for it, even if I hesitated because I wanted to wait it out initially. Our next dates consisted of beautiful nature hikes and drives.
We started from texting every day to me waiting hours and hours for his replies. He cancelled on our next date because he had family arrangements, to which I finally got the hint that he probably wasn't wanting to see me again. I told him he could just let me know if he didnt see this going further. He blamed the distance between us (not very far at all) but he wanted to stay in touch and liked being with me (yeah right)
Im here, pretty heartbroken. He said on his dating profile that he was after something serious, which I was too. I was confused as to why he initiated intimacy so early on if he wanted to be serious, as I wasn't expecting anything and just enjoying his company.
I feel worthless. It actually feels worse when someone puts so much effort into you only to ghost and ditch shortly after.
Even though Im confused, deep down I have a feeling he was only after intimacy all along but it hurts thinking I wasn't the exception. I truly truly liked this man and I feel tricked.
I just dont understand the dating world in this generation. We are truly cooked.