So this is the first time I've ever talked to someone and it has turned sexual. I really like him(he's trans, but has not had any surgeries or anything) and he really likes me. We set up a date this weekend, we were going to go to dinner but we decided to just have sex instead. We're both really horny, and super into each other, and it's our first time ever being with someone, and I've never had to buy condoms before. I do not know what to get. Any help is really appreciated, I know I could just Google it and, but I'm so happy and I want people to know that.


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    So this is the first time I’ve ever talked to someone and it has turned sexual. I really like him(he’s trans, but has not had any surgeries or anything) and he really likes me. We set up a date this weekend, we were going to go to dinner but we decided to just have sex instead. We’re both really horny, and super into each other, and it’s our first time ever being with someone, and I’ve never had to buy condoms before. I do not know what to get. Any help is really appreciated, I know I could just Google it and, but I’m so happy and I want people to know that.

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  2. I’ve never either but based on research: mental prep and expectations set prior to sex, bring important things such as condoms (no excuses, make sure to get proper size condom), lubricant is going to help make things smooth, and I always say…hand hygiene before and after. A full shower before and after is even better. Feel free to try out positions by looking online, do what’s comfortable, and don’t try to jump into kinks right away, take time to know each other’s body and do FOREPLAY. It’s crucial for arousal build up. Don’t just jump into penetration, sex is not always penetration. 

    Also make sure to get tested before having sex. But since it’s your first time and theirs too, I assume it’s not necessarily needed but still. And don’t worry about smell, that shouldn’t be a concern if you showered before sex or nothing like bacterial infection is going on down there. 

  3. You don’t actually disclose here what genital configurations you have here. I’m going to make some guesses/inferences.

    If he’s trans and has a vulva and you also have a vulva, you would likely need a dental dam not a condom. Even with a good amount of bottom growth from years and years on HRT, it’s unlikely he has enough growth to actually don a condom. If he has been on testosterone for several years or has unusually large bottom growth, he could consider taking super accurate measurements and getting a custom condom. If he’s intending on using a prosthetic (strap on dildo) with you, then a standard condom can be applied to the prosthetic to prevent transfer between you and prior partners. If this is not a trans man and instead is like a he/him nonbinary person with a penis that has been on feminizing HRT, he might struggle with getting an erection but when I have slept with people in that configuration, a small diameter standard condom has always worked for me. If you are a person with a penis he can either wear an internal condom if he wants to be penetrated or you can wear a standard condom.

  4. The answer to your question about which condoms to buy. Brand wise, I like Skyn. Feels like almost nothing is on. Especially their Supreme line. Size is important. Depending the size of the penis, you’ll need the right size condom.

    Since it’s bother first time, make it fun, by a variety and try them together.

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