Going back to the dating scene has made me lose faith in love. It is bleak out there. I am honestly one disappointing chat away from ordering a no sex anniversary cake and pretending it is a lifestyle choice.

I am very close to giving up. Not even sex feels worth the effort, small talk, and general emotional damage that comes with dating these days. I am done.

Also I guess what’s most frustrating is that my friends think that it’s easy for me. They say that I get men to flirt with me without even trying. But why does that matter if it always ends the same? It’s so incredibly rare to find someone you align with emotionally and physically.

It’s so incredibly rare to feel safe with someone, to be able to be vulnerable with them. To be able to disconnect and be in the moment with a person who feels the same way about you. Where sex is not just two bodies touching but it’s a real experience that completely intoxicates your brain in the most amazing way.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve had amazing sex with people I haven’t been in love with. Then I get to know them and that’s all it was, just sex.

I need more than just sex. Even great sex sucks and I am over it.

I rather not do anything at all


5 comments

  1. Your DMs are gonna blowup! Whilst I can’t relate as a guy, I do get that some women are fetishized and looked at as only casual sex encounter material and not someone they would date.

  2. I hear you. I think people need to look into escorts and not partners. No one wants to take the time and get to know each other like…I don’t know, actually build a relationship before they’re putting sex on the table.

  3. I feel you, i feel like the last guy unmatched with, wanted a sexual emotional turbulent relationship which I didn’t want to sign up for.

  4. mannn… i wish i got sex at least but everyone is so flaky and uninterested couldnt even find that… 😭 but even when I want sex I want to do it with a certain connection. I can’t just have sex with anyone. I don’t mean a romantic connection. A fwb where the interest is mutual and continuing would be nice.

    but finding even that has been so difficult. i think its hard to build connection with people nowadays and especially in online dating :/ I understand your situation.

  5. Meet people in person. Not online. Like in a coffee shop. Bookstore etc. most toxic men hide behind keyboards because they can pretend to be anyone.

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