As a guy, I've always heard the importance of "aftercare" and cuddling when sex is over. It's constantly emphasized that women feel neglected and used if a guy gets up and puts his pants on immediately after he finishes. Therefore it's better to continue cuddling and making her feel appreciated immediately after sex is over.
But my concern is, right after I finish, I'll still have a condom on, and it'll be filled with cum. If I just stay in bed and keep cuddling the girl, eventually I'll get soft and the condom will fall off. Alternatively, if I take the condom off immediately after sex and then jump right back into bed to cuddle with her, I'm worried there will still be trace amounts of sperm on my hands/penis, so if one thing leads to another and I start fingering her, that sperm could get inside her. So what I usually do is I'll finish, go into the bathroom, take off the condom, pee, wash my hands, then take a shower, before coming out and giving her aftercare. But would that lead to her feeling neglected? Women, would you be okay with this, or would you prefer immediate cuddling after sex?