Okay so me(25F) and my boyfriend (31M) have been dating for over a year. We live together and have a great relationship, but lately his running schedule is causing some issues. He works a 9-5 and runs every day after work for hours. By the time he’s done it’s around 9pm. Because of this, I end up making dinner at 8-9pm most nights, and our social life is pretty non existent. If I try to make plans for a date night or to go see our friends/family we can’t because he has to run. If he does and up going, he’s in a bad mood because of it. It’s the same on weekends, if we have plans later in the day he’ll wait until an hour or so before, decide to run, and then we’re late. I’ve asked him if he thinks he would be able to wake up and run in the mornings before work and on weekends if he wants to run every day of the week so we can be able to be social and go do things. I don’t think he has any intention on doing that. (Probably because we go to bed at 1am every night because the only time we get to hang out is after 9pm)
It’s really starting to frustrate me and I don’t know how to bring it up without sounding pushy or like I’m complaining. I totally get how exercise is important and I myself run a few miles a day as well, but I do it in the mornings and don’t run on weekends unless it’s a lazy weekend. It’s not that I don’t want him to run, especially if it makes him feel better. But I just want our relationship to not revolve around it. Am I overreacting? How do I even bring this up? I feel stupid bringing it up because who gets annoyed at their significant other for exercising? Lol.
TLDR; My boyfriend runs every day for at least 2 hours and it interferes with our social life and date nights.