20 black F interested in white men…what do i doooo??!?!?

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1. Dated a black girl a few times. Honestly it wasn’t any different really despite what people think. Ultimately we were just not compatible due to interests so it largely boils down to that. You’ll find someone that matches there if you just keep social.

2. Be confident and take the lead, it is extremely attractive imo

3. If you got booty, where leggings

4. You may also want to check out r/interracialdating too since that one is kind of geared towards interracial dating.

5. Ok. I might be wrong since I am neither black or white and possibly from a different country. But why are you overthinking?
   Just talk to a guy you are interested in and you think can be interested in you or at least ready to date in general. Try to run into them and conduct normal conversation with increasing time for the next few days. Then exchange numbers and see where it goes. You can set up a date after a week or two.
   Dating is a hit and trial work.

6. How curvy is curvy if you’re 5”?

   I’m sure you can find a white dude in college to date. I don’t think it’ll be a problem.

7. 50 year old white dudes love that statistically speaking

8. I am a white girl so forgive me if you don’t want to hear from me. But Anwar White (a dating coach for black/brown women) says that white men can feel nervous approaching a black woman thinking they won’t be into him etc. I’m pretty sure he said to just let the guy know you’re open with a smile or flirt or whatever (but also to watch how he behaves to make sure he can support you as a black woman, like stand up for you, etc.) I can’t remember exactly, but check him out – he gives great advice.

9. Treat everyone the same. I have dated both white and black. It’s not that hard 🙂

10. Be pleasant. Cook some delicious comfort meals and bake some cookies. Make him feel wanted first, needed second, and be his peace. The right white guy will be all yours and take care of his queen.

11. Approach them. Talk to them. Get to know them. And if you’re feeling it, take your shot. There doesn’t have to be a black/white aspect to it, just be you.

12. Why are you interested in white men? No judgment at all, just genuinely wondering. I’m Black and have dated white and Asian guys. I met them on dating apps mostly and have found that Jewish guys interestingly date Black women more than you think. When I lived in NYC, most guys I dated were Jewish, even the one Asian guy I dated was Jewish lol

13. If you’re not attracting any, you’ll need to approach guys you find interesting. It’s really that simple. Guys generally love to be approached, and those that don’t aren’t who you want to be with anyway.

    Also, at your young age, most guys don’t do outdated things like “courting”. Casual dating is pretty much the norm, with some looking for serious relationships, but the only way you’re getting courted is if you go to church or something like that.

    Of course, men aren’t a monolith. Make sure guys you approach are being kind, engaging, and matching your energy.

    Also, I’m a white guy and I’d absolutely date a black woman. I’d never, ever be able to approach one though. I’d probably assume she wouldn’t be into me, and she’d definitely have to approach me. All I’d care about is this: is she kind? Engaging? Mutually shared interests? Good energy?

    ❤️

14. Black dude here…

    You are a curvy black sista…go flirt with the guys…the ones that are smart, can ge hit the dougie and be smooth in the swirl will get the hint.

15. White guy here, literally just be kind and friendly and smiley to a guy you like, drop hints like saying you’re single etc. and if they’re interested and not completely oblivious they should pick up on it. If you’re a bit of a nerd then show that, lean into that side of you. I’ve dated black girls before, in terms of what I look for, beyond someone that fits my body preference (curvy), long hair is what really attracts me, I do think in general most guys share that preference

16. I work among the public in a big city. And see thousands of strangers everyday . This is just an observation (im black)

    White guys usually go for top shelf black women only. No tattoos. No “alt” makeup. Natural hair. Skinny.

    That’s the most common interracial white/black couple archetype I see on a daily basis.

    Please don’t attack the messenger.

17. I think black girls are very attractive. However, all the ones I’ve dated I couldn’t bring myself to a second date as they all want/demand princess/queen treatment.

18. I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now, she is black and I’m latino, it doesn’t rally matter about skin color or even height (she is 6’1 I’m 5’7). It mostly comes down if you are compatible with someone and if you actually feel an interest towards the person, not only in looks but actually how they act and what they do.

    If you feel interested in someone to the point of asking them out, I think you should go for it in a respectful way and just try things out , hope you find what you are looking for :D.

19. Get a bag wig if you don’t already have one. Make sure it sits funny on your head. Wear bright lipstick and say “yea yea” a lot. Invite me to the wedding. Have a happy (soft) life…. 💋

20. As a white guy, well, my advice would be the same to any girl. Don’t be afraid to convey strong signals of interest, smiling, eye contact. Initiate innocent conversation if necessary Someone’s bound to take the hint. No need to play hard to get or to convey too much baddie energy unless you want a baddie. Most white guys are kind & friendly. Do it back to them & be flirty. That’s what it takes. (Ofc, no need to do strong approaches like guys do, but if you wish to attract men & you ain’t getting any, then some amount of effort is necessary. The point when I wanted to approach a girl in school was bcs she was heavily signaling her availability with strong, smiling gaze)

21. If a guy is interested in you, he’ll approach you. I don’t think there’s a formula to “pull them”. When I was your age, I dated more than a few white guys (I’m a black F). In each instance, I was approached in either social settings and/or school. We chatted up a bit, exchanged numbers and took it from there.

    I think you are overthinking. As a woman, you really don’t have to do much other than exist, and the guys who are interested will approach. Put yourself in the proximity of these men, and let nature take its course

22. Girl, I promise you like 95% of dudes are not that picky. Unless you’re going for like top tier conventionally very attractive white guys who have girls throwing themselves at them, most guys would just be really happy that a girl is talking to them at all. What I’ve gathered from guy friends who are single (and my boyfriend’s experience from before we got together) is that they don’t know how to talk to girls anymore. They will match with people on apps, get two very basic messages, and then the girls will vanish. They’re afraid to approach in public for fear of someone getting upset with them for holding a door or something stupid (happened to one of my guy friends and he wasn’t even trying to pick the girl up, was just being polite). It takes A LOT of the stress off guys if you approach them, and they will appreciate you for it. My boyfriend (interracial relationship, though I don’t think that’s particularly relevant) had totally given up on trying to approach — if I hadn’t gotten up the courage to talk to him, we wouldn’t be together right now.

23. I’ve dated white guys, but I don’t go after them. They ask me out and if I’m interested, I accept. I don’t think there’s a magic formula for getting a person of another race to date you.

24. Honestly, all these men saying to approach men….. 🙄 ridiculous. I would not recommend that. It sets it up where you’re pursuing them which is not what you want. And then you end up with the type of men who don’t take the lead. Flirt, be receptive, show you’re interested, but I would NOT approach men.

25. As a white man, we love raisins in potato salad.

26. My fiance is white and his and my race were an afterthought when we started dating. It’s not a big deal we just have different skin colors. I will say though, make sure whoever you date doesn’t fetishize you and clock micro aggressions if applicable. If the first thing a white man says when chatting you up has to do with race, I wouldn’t go for it. Also, he is aware of my black experience and we talk about sensitive topics and align together on them.

27. Pretty simple. Treat them like any other guy. If you’re interested in him, make subtle signs like smile or a little eye contact. If you’re feel bold, get near them and say hey. It doesn’t have to be anything too crazy. I disagree that you shouldn’t need to do anything and just expect them to fall in your lap. As a man, I have a hard time cold-approaching women, but it definitely helps if she looks inviting, so at the very least, it helps to look like you are interested. Good luck.