Hi everyone,
This is my first Reddit post, and I could really use an outside perspective. My fiance (37M) and I (34F) have been together for 4 years and are getting married soon. He’s genuinely a great guy, smart, funny, successful, and caring. His job requires a lot of travel to Asia, and I’ve always trusted him completely.
I’ve never been a jealous person. We’re both open minded and honest with each other. Even down to things like him following thirst traps on IG. My mindset has always been that everyone has their own fantasies, and as long as it stays harmless, just looking, not engaging and I’m okay with that.
But something odd happened this week. He’s currently in Asia for work, and we usually FaceTime every day, morning and night (include all the trips before). Nothing seemed off until I randomly got this gut feeling to check his Reddit, IG on his computer (which I never do). Then I decided to click the inbox (again, didn't know that reddit also have that feature). Two of them were super old (8–9 years ago), but one was recent just a few days ago. The conversation was super short like:
Him: “Hello, saw your post on r4r.”
Person: “Hello, what’s up.”
And that was it. I then clicked on the person’s profile, and they had a post titled:
“[F4M] [City name] – looking for someone genuine.” After doing a quick research, realizing what [F4M] meant (female for male)?, I couldn’t figure out what his intention was. It’s not like there was a full conversation, but it’s still strange. Why even message that kind of post? I took screenshots, but before confronting him, I want to ask and see if this is something worth worrying about? Or could it really be nothing? The wedding is coming up, and having this linger in my head does not help my mental health at all. Thank you in advance.