I'm a guy (23) and I'm getting to know a girl from Brazil (22). We met at the entrance of a bar and there was instant chemistry. Her friends were teasing her because she liked me at first sight – and I felt the same. That same night, we went out for a drink alone, and I asked for her Instagram and if she’d like to have another drink with me another day. She said yes.
The next afternoon, I texted her asking if she wanted to grab a drink with me on Saturday, and she agreed. The date was amazing — we were talking and laughing the whole time. While we were talking, I found out she was going back to Brazil in four months, and that we had some mutual friends. So I suggested going out together with them to a club that same night, and she loved the idea. I walked her home so I could see her again that night.
When we got to her place, we had our first kiss and everything went great. Later that night, at the club, everything went well too, and I walked her home again. The problem is that when we got to her place, she wanted to have sex outside, and was a bit insistent. I asked her why she didn’t want to go upstairs and she told me she felt embarrassed because she didn't know her roommates that well yet. So I ended up saying no, because I really don’t like the idea of doing anything sexual in public. And apparently, she liked the idea of saving it for a more special moment, especially since she said she was drunk.
My issue is that I’ve had two more dates with her since then (both amazing), and during both we’ve been really flirty, but we haven’t had sex. When I try to move things forward, she tells me she wants to take things slower with me and reminds me we’ve only been on two dates. She also told me she really likes me and would love to plan a trip with me (a bit too soon for that, in my opinion).
Of course, during the dates we’ve talked about a lot of things, and I asked her if she was talking to other people. She said yes and asked me if it bothered me. I said no, and that I was also talking to someone else — that we were still getting to know each other and it was too early to want anything serious.
What confuses me is why she doesn't want to be more intimate with me, even though she clearly shows she likes me and I like her too (for example, we walk holding hands, she loves cuddling with me… So we both enjoy showing affection). And all of this knowing that she’s going back to her country in four months…