Hi everyone!
I (30M) am getting stuck on figuring out the "chemistry" part of dating. I have been rejected over 500 times in about a decade of trying.
So far, I've never been on a first date because of it – women usually reject me/ghost/turn me down before it happens and many opt to "be friends."
I was talking to a 32F the other week and she told me "you are absolutely one of the most genuine men I've met and have a lot to offer – any woman would be lucky to have you" then turned me down on a coffee/ice cream date.
She told me that she didn't feel "the spark" and wanted to stay friends.
Other women have told me that if a girl "doesn't feel something flipping in her stomach when she talks to you, she won't date you."
Any advice would help – I don't know how "chemistry" happens.