Hi! I’m looking for advice on how to best please my partner. In the past I’ve only ever been with very very large guys and my current partner is more around average size. We have been best friends for several years before dating, so he has heard about many of my past experiences and knows about the guys penises that I’ve been with. He has always been very self conscious about his size (this was not known when I told him about my experiences).
I really care about him deeply and want him to feel pleased and not compared at all. We have had sex many times, and most times I feel like I don’t know what to do with his size penis. I feel like I’m not explaining well, so here’s an example: In the past in foreplay when my hand goes to the penis region, their penis is hard but actually folds down like towards the rear because the blood isn’t enough to hold the weight straight out, so I’m able to grab and trace downward, especially with the underwear compression. With my current partner, it sticks straight out and I don’t have any idea where my hand goes. Like the head, the shaft, what about movement? When I’ve jerked off guys in the past, I use my whole hand, but I cannot do that with my current partner because it’s not much space to move my hand.
All of this is out of genuine curiosity because I don’t know how to interact and really want to please him. I’m an incredibly sexual person and have just not engaged with his penis as much as I’d want to out of fear of doing something that was meant for a larger penis and making him feel bad.
We have a really great relationship and I want to be able to feel confident in sex with him to better it for both of us.
I’m really looking to learn. Women in similar situations, what did you do? Men with average size packages, how do you like to be touched (hands, oral, etc.)? I feel like I can’t ask him this directly because he’s only been with me, and he’d probably think that I should know how to interact with a penis and would know that I’m asking cause of size differences.