I’m (F) struggling with some feelings and keen to get other perspectives that might help.
My partner (NB) and I hadn’t had proper alone time in a week and a half because I had my kids. We were looking forward to some intimacy without having to be quiet.
When they came over we had sex and I came. When it was their turn, they let me know that they’d already come today but they still wanted to come. While I was going down on them I felt something a bit lacking in our connection and their presence and checked in. It turns out they had made themselves come six times over the course of the day and weren’t sure they were going to be able to come again.
I don’t want to police my partner’s self pleasure but I can’t help but feel hurt that they made the choice to come so many times when they knew it would undermine their sexual energy for me later. Sure, come a few times, but 6 orgasms is a lot?
I was grumpy and they apologised, but I’m still feeling a bit crappy the next morning and would like to put it behind me.
- edited to add genders