I'm 31 , my wife 27 , I'm about to make the decision to divorce the woman I have loved for 9 years, and we have been married for 3 years. A few months ago, I discovered that my wife had intimate relationships with a large number of people in passing, for example, 3 different people every few months, and relationships with other women. The matter developed to the point that she brought one of these girls and boys to our house during my travels. When we confronted her, she said that she had borderline personality disorder and that one of the symptoms she had not been treated for was that she had been in treatment for 15 years since her childhood. I did not know that she was suffering from anything. However, she said that one of her symptoms was that in order to control the collapse of the world, she exploits and controls other people in order to restore her balance during times of collapse. She collapsed during my absence for two years of travel after marriage, and that the matter was a side effect and had no real emotional or sexual connections inside her, etc. I also know that she loves me and has made sacrifices for me and endured a lot throughout these years, but I feel wronged and that I do not deserve this and that I should not accept this situation. Since I found out about the matter, I have been punishing myself for the past 3 months and drowning myself in debt as a form of self-flagellation. Because I don't feel like I respect myself when I'm with her. Overall, she's a good, polite girl who has everything I want and we never had any issues with each other before I discovered this. She's now offering me therapy, but I feel like I can't see it from any other perspective than cheating. What's your advice?