tl;dr:
My boyfriend and I are emotionally close but have very little sex. He has libido issues, and I’m shy about expressing sexual preferences. I want to improve our intimacy and sexual connection but don’t know how to communicate effectively.
Me and my boyfriend are dating for a year and half. Things are good between us.
Because in my previous relationship I wasn’t talking much about my ex preferences, in this one I was too shy to talk about it. But I never had an orgasm with my ex.
In this relationship is the same. But the difference is that my boyfriend wants to know what I like in sex, but I am just too shy.
He has some libido issue as well, so we don’t have much sex. But in the last 7 months it got worse, cause we had sex 4 times in total. I don’t put pressure on him, he said he doesn’t understand why he doesn’t want to have sex, we are connected emotionally, but it’s just lack of sex..
He had blood tests and he is waiting to see a doctor. But it’s just so sad.
We’ve been in holiday, and were kissing and he started to finger me, I grabbed his dick, but because it was too dry, I wasn’t moving my hand to not hurt him. And he stopped and said like do you think this will make me feel something and then he stopped.
He said he doesn’t know what I like, I don’t make any noises and I don’t talk about what I like in sex, and he would like me to orgasm, but he doesn’t know what I like. Which also affects him.
He said he knows that he has libido issues, but also this thing also is making him not very motivated.
How can I improve intimacy and sexual communication with my boyfriend despite libido issues and my shyness?