For context, I spend loads on her, nice dinners, ubers, food etc etc whatever else. I’ve always known she’s liked money and dating older guys with established jobs. I’ve told her constantly that if she’s comprising for me money wise since i’m just a regular university student, that she shouldn’t do that and i’d understand if she wants someone else that matches her finance needs. However she reassured me constantly that she dates me for me and not for my financial situation.
Later on, we went out and i spent a lot on her, and i was telling her about a new game I can’t buy yet since i spent too much. Wasn’t anything meant by it, just a conversational thing. However she thought i regretted spending on her and instead of communicating with me what she’s feeling, she ended up texting her friend.
She texted her (also a woman f20) that she “lowkey wants to date a man with more money”. Finding that text hurt me. It destroyed any reassurance she gave me that she doesn’t date me for my money, and on top of that negates the effort i’ve already made on making sure she doesn’t spend a dime when we’re out together. Or even apart. She said she didn’t mean what she said.
She believes breaking up over that isn’t justified however it’s crazy to me that anyone can say something like that about their significant other during a relationship.
She also thinks that me breaking up over this means i’m not really committed.
On top of that she thinks it’s a petty reason and that it’s just her first mistake.