I (34F) used to be really close to this guy (38M). At first, he showed a lot of interest — always texting, being sweet, sharing random stuff with me. Then he slowly started pulling away, getting “too busy” and even leaving me on read when I sent simple things like memes or songs.
When he told me he had a girlfriend, I decided to back off completely. I had been honest about my feelings before, so he knows this isn’t easy for me — he should know it hurts a bit. That’s why I thought distance was the best thing.
But lately, he’s been reaching out again — sending music, memes, and videos, saying he doesn’t want to lose me, that I’m a great friend, and that he wants to see me. He even asked me to go out to eat a couple of times because he “wants to talk with his friend.”
I try to say no in a respectful way, or I just tell him I’m busy and can’t make it.
Still, I’m confused. If I’m just a friend (but we know I'm not have just friends feelings) so he why act like this?
( I’m tired of this. I just want to step back, heal, and not hear anything about his girlfriend. )