I was reading another post and many people in long term relationships were replying about having sex 2-4 times a week. I honestly just can't wrap my head around it so i'm wondering how? is it scheduled? is it spontaneous? quickies vs long events? Does someone just say 'hey…wanna?' and other says 'sure!'. Is it just a matter of each having a high libido? Is rejection not really happening often?
I'm just curious because as many others in longer relationships, the sex has dipped significantly. I'd say its once a month.. Date nights end in sex maybe 33% of the time. Asking on a random tuesday happens less than 10% of the time and get excuse like they haven't shaved, its late, its's cold, had a big dinner, etc. Do those excuses not exist in your world or is everyone just prepared so there's no roadblocks?
As i mentioned, i still plan date nights. I take care of the kids, taking them to school and pickup and HW done before she gets home. I cook dinner and do laundry so its not that.