I really dont know what to do anymore. My husband's family uses him like crazy and he doesnt see it. He will drop everything for them but they wont do the same. Its gotten to the point where in therapy he told the therapist that for his family he would drop everything in a heart beat but he gets mad at me when I tell him he has to choose between making them happy or me. He ditches me with our kids constantly to go help them. He has other siblings who dont help but he constantly feels like he needs to. Today he did if he doesnt help hes scared his mom will hurt herself trying to do things on her own. I get helping out parents and stuff but his siblings refuse to helo us out and are very firm in their boundaries (which is great) but my husband let's them walk all over.
What do I do? I feel defeated and I still feel like I come last in his life.