2 days ago somebody broke into my (23 F) cellar and stole a few things – left the cellar in a messy state and also stole the key to the backyard. Immediately after discovering this, I texted my bf (21 M) – terrified because I live by myself. He answered 1 and 1/2h later with "Wtf? Did they steal anything? Are you okay?" but then dipped before I could even answer – for another hour. FYI he was at his friend's place – I still didn't expect him to leave me all by myself in this situation. I was terrified. I told him that the police were there and that the CDI were coming to secure evidence – as two weeks ago someone had attempted to break into my apartment through the kitchen window; I told him about the stolen keys and how they broke the front door and how the police told us that they're probably planning on returning.
But he did not answer for another hour. My neighbours and friends jumped in to console me instead (and I am so thankful for them, I was so paranoid and stressed). He then texted again 2 hours later (after leaving his friend's place) and asked if I was mad at him. I told him to go to sleep and that we can talk abt that in the morning – I saw that he was online but he did not answer. I couldn't sleep, terrified that they would return. After that I communicated that I felt ignored and like he doesn't care about my well-being, he got defensive and said it was just an hour. I asked him what he was doing and he told me that he ate and then did the dishes – and that he wanted to listen to the rest of my messages afterwards.
That just hurt me because .. iI'm reading this as: my safety comes after washing dishes? As the conversation went on (where I was just trying to communicate my hurt and disappointment) – he started saying things like "It couldn't have been that bad if you'd rather be angry at me for that", tellling me I'm not being the bigger person. At one point I did get irritated, as it is a pattern that he's just not there for me when I need him. Whenever I'm at a low (or high) point in my life, he starts instigating arguments. He kept stressing how he wasn't just off doing whatever but that he was eating and cleaning dishes and didn't even wait with responding to me until he left his friend's place – but isn't that normal??
Whenever I bring up that he could've done both the dishes and listened to me he brushed it off – when I asked why he wouldn't put his gf before dishes I was ignored.
He did apologize multiple times but it never did and still doesn't feel genuine, because after every sorry he went right back into stating that I'm making a big deal out of nothing and how he acted in a normal manner – how I'm desperately trying to feed my own perspective etc. etc. He started getting condescending and mocking me (which he even admitted to when asked) – at which point the conversation broke. We haven't talked ever since. His pride is more important to him than helping me navigate any of this.
Either I am expecting too much or reading into this a little bit too much – or he's acting weird. What do I even do from here on?