Me 33/F, have been dating my partner, 33-M for about 2 years. We’ve been living together for a year now. He is very sarcastic to the point it feels intentional to hurt me, but he denies this. He also comes off as judgmental, which he says is just for fun. I feel like everything I do he judges, whether it’s me getting excited about an event, or me being happy about my favorite childhood movie being on streaming, he has this look of judgement. He doesn’t even have to say anything, it can just be a look that ruins the mood. He will also on occasions make a sound that I take as judgement. I feel like I’m a very supportive and interested girlfriend. I may make a little joke about his hobbies, but it comes off as a fun and good intentions. He will have me tag along on his interests like concerts, car shows, sporting, etc. But when I drag him along to one of mine interests he either doesn’t care or judges me the whole time. He makes feel really small and like I’m not good enough. I’ve started hiding certain things because I know he’ll judge me. I’m at a loss of what to do. I’ve brought this up multiple times to him and have flat out sobbed and called him out on it, but it’s still happening. We have a really good relationship, but it’s this that makes me question things. Any advice on how to handle this?
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The post describes a toxic, dysfunctional and borderline abusive relationship and then ends it with ‘we have a really good relationship’.. no you don’t and your boyfriend does not love you, it doesn’t even sound like he likes you.
You don’t have to hide anything out of fear of belittlement in a good relationship. And someone who loves you would never treat you this way.
Dont stay with someone who makes you feel small. You deserve someone who celebrates you and wants you for who you are.
I’ve dated guys like the one you’re describing. He’s not on your team. You’re in a prison of your own making, but you also have the key. Set yourself free.