I decided I had enough around… 6 months ago? Maybe more. I'm not going to get into the details, otherwise this post will turn into a novel. I'm looking for specific advice on how to handle the breakup.
Here's the problem: I wanted to leave, but I had nowhere to go. I wasn't going to break up and then continue cohabitating. Yeah I know talking things out is the "right" thing to do because otherwise you're lying to your partner, leading them on, wasting their time etc. But I'm not going to play russian roulette every time I leave the house and risk coming home and finding all my stuff burning in a pyre in the front yard or something. She has these manic episodes where she gets angry and starts crying and screaming. It's probably worth mentioning that she is medicated with an anti-psychotic. I found this after she moved in. She told me she was only taking it to sleep better and not for its anti-psychotic qualities. Well, maybe it's true. But i'm not going to risk it.
I have this small apartment i inherited. 6 months ago, I contacted the tenants and told them I need them to move out, offered them cash for the inconvenience. They were very disappointed, and said they needed some time.
They're moving out tomorrow. My GF has no idea.
I already asked my boss for a couple days off. Sometime next week, when she leaves for work, I'll move out. I'll then call her and tell her it's over, and that I'll continue paying rent+utilities until the lease is up (8 months) and that she has to find somewhere else to go before that. She has no idea. She won't even see it coming. It's going to be a very traumatic experience for her.
tl;dr what should I do to make it less traumatic for her?