hi guys, i’m really nervous to post this, but basically what the title says. my ( 23/F ) boyfriend ( 23/M ) have been dating for 3 years. i really feel like he isn’t attracted to me. we only have sex maybe 3-4 times a month. i sometimes try to initiate and he usually turns me down. i definitely wouldn’t say im unattractive by any means, but im definitely punching as he is a very attractive man. everyone who meets him says he looks like henry cavill or one of the hemsworth brothers.
he’s a great boyfriend and i know he does love me but its so upsetting as i hear stories from my friends about how whenever they undress in front of their boyfriends they get hard and want to fuck, or same story in the shower or stuff like that. i get my boyfriends sex drive just might not be high and i don’t think mine really is either but it makes me feel really unattractive and unloved. does anyone have any insight into why this might be or a solution? i dont want to have to have a conversation with him basically asking him to be attracted to me or atleast pretend, that defeats the whole purpose..
thanks everyone
TL; DR, my boyfriend of three years isn’t sexually attracted to me and i don’t know what to do