I am 35 and have been with my wife for 4 years. Her friends are all having kids and I know that eventually the time is coming. Back where im from in Florida, i was a party animal and blew so much money like a fool. Now, being in a different state, being sober, trying to deal with my demons through therapy, medicine and exercise but of course not perfect. My wife is a great person, sweet. Neither of us were great with money and we are trying to get better though life seems to always find a way to set us back.
I think the way she sees it, it would be “fun” to have a child. It would be something beautiful that we share. But, i look at things from a different view. Yes, it would be beautiful, but we aren’t straight with money yet. My history of mental illness in my family and even how i’ve become somewhat like my own father when he was my age is scary, though i am working through it the best i can (anger issues). That makes me fearful for what the child may inherit. And, i think a bit of selfishness in that, this will take a lot from us being able to do the things we want and could do its own set of damage.
Ive been told i would be a great father, i dont know if i see it. But, for those of you who have kids or were on the fence, what advice or wisdom can you impart on me?