hi all, i know no one can give me concrete answers but i was just wondering if anyone had any experience.
my bf and i have been together for about 9 months now, we started dating when we went to the same college and then he wanted to transfer so i ended up transferring too. i ended up at my second choice school while he got rejected from the only place he applied, so he’s taking a semester off to just work. up until these last few months i’ve felt like he was THE ONE. even before we started dating, i was chasing after him for almost a year. we became the best of friends and i could spend every single second of every day with him and it would be the best time of my life. i miss those days so so much and i wish things were still like that. now, all he does is sleep and go to work, we don’t have much to talk about anymore. he’s become far more clingy as opposed to the independent self assured guy i used to know. he also seems to have gotten far more childish, pouting and whining and all these things that make me feel more like a parent than a partner. i don’t know when things have changed, or if it’s just the distance, or if they’ll go back to how they used to be. he used to be so perfect to me and it breaks my heart that this switch has just flipped in my brain. i feel like i just want him to go away and like i want to be alone. i don’t get excited to spend time with him or talk or do anything because i just feel so uncomfy, like he’s a stranger. he hasn’t done anything wrong which makes me feel worse. i find myself getting mean and snappy over the smallest things, and every time i try to have a conversation about how i’m feeling it’s like he doesn’t hear me, he just gets quiet and sad and doesn’t say anything. i feel like im kicking a puppy and it tears me apart. i don’t know what to do. i want my bf back but i don’t know if that will happen. i just feel like im in over my head, his whole family adores me and i just feel so embarrassed over all of this. i like being by myself and i want time to focus on school and making new friends in a place where i don’t know anyone, but in terrified of regretting my decision. has anyone experienced this? am i just getting cold feet? should i wait it out or break up? HELP
TLDR; a flip switched and i want to be out of my relationship, but nothing has happened to make me feel this way and i love my bf very much, don’t know what to do!