Hi All, I feel extremely anxious and tensed whenever I have to speak to my MIL over phone. Same also happens when I have to go at her place and meet her. I feel she constantly judges me, my behavior and my kid's behavior. It's been 12 years in our marriage and this anxiety is still there. I am a working woman. I make decent money. My husband also make decent money. Financially, we are doing very well. One of the gyaan that keeps on coming from my MIL is that we spend too much money. We are spoiling our child with expensive gifts. I totally understand to be humble and to spend wisely but we weren't also always like this. Our major growth only happened in last 3-4 years. So, I spend on things that make me happy(most importantly make me feel confident) like clothes, accessories, holidays etc. We have opted for an IB school for our child because we align with the values, curriculum and most importantly future that we see for our child. But we are constantly belittled for our choices.
On the other hand, My MIL spends a lot of money on renovating her home. She keeps on changing interiors every year. She would replace perfectly fine household stuff just like that. She's fond of expensive perfumes which she doesn't buy with her own money ever. And I am the one who get this "gyaan" of saving money all the time. I mean, If I am spending on her then it's fine but If I buy something for myself then it's splurging.