Hello, I need some dating advice as a first time dater. I am a 22 year old female who just recently met Ivan 21 year-old male on a dating app. Some background for me is that I’ve never had a boyfriend and me and Ivan have been dating for three weeks. He is a very sweet person and he says he’s not that experienced dating as well. I want to preface this by stating I told him what I wanted in a relationship like being a gentleman, random thoughtful gifts, random flowers, etc. The problem comes where he has never actually planned a date. He always just states “whatever you wanna do. I just want you to have a good time”which is totally fine to a certain point. The one time he was was supposed to plan a date he just invited me over to his house because he was having financial difficulties. Now this is where I’m probably at fault. I was just really desperate for connection so we did have sex. This was my first time btw. I’ve just been feeling so left out with everyone around me dating and having boyfriend or having a relationship. The next time we hung out, which was again at his house he initiated Sex. The thing is right now I’m not feeling a spark. I don’t know if I was supposed to have already felt a spark or it’s supposed to come later. He claims he likes me, but has never gotten me any thoughtful gifts, flowers, or planned the dates. He still always been a gentleman holding the doors, paying for the dates we do go on. I’m not sure if I should keep trying because the spark will come because I think he’s a really sweet person and I have a good time but I’m just not feeling a spark. I don’t know if it’s because he’s not giving me the things that I want. If I do end up having a conversation to break it off, I don’t know how it would go about it because he’s actually been really sweet.
I don’t know how to move forward, or if I even should? Has anyone else run into a similar situation, and did you keep trying?