Hi everyone,
I (female, 23 yo) have been with my boyfriend (Male, 25 yo) for about a month, and we’d known each other for two months before that. He’s one of the kindest guys I’ve met — caring, respectful, never toxic, and my parents adore him.
But I’ve started to notice things that make me doubt our long-term compatibility. He lost his job, and even though he still insists on paying when we go out, I don’t know where the money comes from. He keeps saying he doesn’t want to work for anyone and wants to build something on his own, but there’s no solid plan yet. I’m afraid I’ll end up being the stable one carrying all the weight.
There’s also the sexual difference. He has a higher libido, and I have a lot of pregnancy anxiety, so sex stresses me out. When I say no, I sometimes feel like his mood changes or he withdraws emotionally. He’s not mean — just distant — and that hurts me.
I love how he treats me, and I don’t want to lose him. But deep down, I feel we might be mismatched, and I’m scared to admit it. My parents love him, and I’d feel terrible disappointing them or losing someone who’s been good to me.
What should I do? Am I overthinking this or are these signs that we’re just not the right fit long-term?
TL;DR: My boyfriend is kind and caring, but we might not be compatible — he’s very sexual and uncertain about work, while I value emotional connection and stability more. I’m scared to lose him, but also scared this relationship isn’t right long-term.
Update:
We broke up today…. He even unfollowed me on insta bro.. how childish..