…or playful touching, caressing etc.
She always thinks I’m trying to make a “move”, we probably if I’m lucky have sex 1 or 2 times a month, and I ALWAYS have to initiate it.
We separated about 25 years ago, she had a boyfriend or someone she slept with, while we contemplating getting back together, she told during a conversation that she could only have sex with someone she loved.
That stuck with me to this day, cause I truly feel she doesn’t really love me, feels like a chore just to make love.
If I want to talk about it or mention it, I get shut down right away, she gets defensive and says I’m always picking on her.
I honestly feel the only reason she stays with me is that I make a good living and she doesn’t have to work, she hasn’t worked in over 20 years.
What do I do? I love her. I’m still immensely attracted to her. But it is very frustrating and demoralizing to be married to her, I don’t know what to do?