Ive been dating the same guy for 3 years and I am exhausted. His mother told me early on that he suffered from depression since he was a kid. I just never realized how bad it would get. He is negative about EVERYTHING. He hates his life. He talks about death alot. He hates work. He is jealous that I live a supposedly "easier" life than him. (I share as much as I can with him. He has 2 jobs.) I compliment him on everything and im his biggest cheerleader. However he is so down on himself that he doesn't believe these uplifting things that I tell him. On the rare occasion we are intimate, I tell him how great it was and he believes im lying or faking it. He always feels like he is a failure at everything. Always says he's a bad person or a bad boyfriend and feels like he's not enough and tries to encourage me to see other men. Of course I dont and remind him im loyal. At the same time he is ALWAYS worried im cheating on him or eventually I will cheat. I haven't done anything to make him think that. He just feels so inadequate as a person that he expects me to want someone else. He expects me to either leave him or cheat on him. He has some childhood issues but his depression is crippling for the both of us. He never wants to do anything or go anywhere unless I encourage it or plan it. He keeps all his curtains closed all day and avoids other people especially his neighbors. He's always worried about what other people think about him. We fight quite often because all of these things has frustrated me beyond belief and im out of options. Ive done all I can do to help him and uplift him. I even tried to encourage therapy and medication but he refuses to do either. I feel so helpless and frustrated and exhausted and im not sure how much more of this i can take. He is a wonderful sweet loving guy at heart and ive seen it but his severe depression takes over. Has anyone else dealt with a partner with depression?