My bf (M19) is draining me and I’m tired of it. Perhaps I’m being inconsiderate however he’s dealing with some sadness problems. I tried to sympathize with him and I’ve for the past 5 years have been patient with him and have always comfort him. However it’s getting worse and it’s effecting me. He is constantly down and sad unless he’s with me however even then he occasionally feels down even if I’m there. He’s grown to rely on me to feel happy however even the smallest things make him sad. If I play a game without him he gets down. Hes a college student and gets sad because Im not with him. If I make a friend, he gets upset. If I complete something without him, he once more becomes down. He can be so cheerful however immediately becomes down if I do something like the things I’ve mentioned. Every call, He finds a problem and can’t help but to make the call about it. One time I forgot to ask for his day and he broke down saying I never ask about his day. Ever since then I kept track on our conversation, summarizing our call, and his day. If I want to end a call early, he will sound down and then message me about how he’s not good enough or I’m not showing him enough love. Note: I have told him I am not a openly loving person, I’ve dealt with some stuff when I was younger which caused me to not do psychical touch nor say stuff like “I love you” however I have made ways to get around my discomforts. I say ILY in a different manner like “You are my favorite person.”, “I heart you.” Or I mispronounce Love. I hate the idea of procreating, I’ve made it clear but that’s all he can think of. It disgust me so much but I can’t tell him. I simply say no. I hate kisses so much but once I pulled away from his attempt to kiss me and stated “No not now, it’s a bit early don’t you think?” Around a week in our relationship. He broke down. I’ve been enduring his kisses to not see him sad. I secretly wipe them. He touches me too much but I can’t tell him no because then he goes from happy to making the day depressing. About a week or two ago, I told him that he was draining me and I want a break. He was ok with it for a hour before calling me nonstop and texting me saying he’s sorry that he’ll get help. That he’s a horrible person and such. I went back to him because seeing him so sad hurt me. I feel like I can’t leave him since I want him to be happy but I feel like I owe it to him since he has spend money on me. I’m genuinely tired but I can’t leave him. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do.


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