Throwaway account because I am nervous about posting.
One of my closest friends started dating a guy a few months ago. She’s fallen fast and hard for him. Problem is, the guy is a walking red flag. Substance abuse, still lives with his ex, some other things I won’t get into here. It’s bad.
Anyways she wants me to meet him and for us to hang out together. I have zero interest in this, and I feel guilty about it.
She has asked my opinion about the relationship. I said he seems untrustworthy and I’m worried about her for choosing someone so sketchy. She seems to think that spending time with him will change my mind.
My friend keeps inviting him to things that we would normally do together. So far I have managed to only briefly encounter him. I can’t keep doing it forever and unfortunately it seems like she’s going to be with him for a while.
It feels like I am seeing less and less of her as this relationship continues and I am avoiding being there because of the guy. I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I care about her a lot but don’t want to give her the illusion that everything is fine.
How do I talk to her about not wanting to be friendly with her bf?
Or what would be some good motivation to get over my feelings and hang out with him for her sake?