So me (31M) and my partner (31F) have this joint friend who was part of our friendship group before we started dating. I like him, but recently as we've been moving towards starting a family, I'm finding his presence (every few months or so, not that often) a little jarring. He's single and always talks in the tone of "we could go on vacation to X", or ",we should go here in December" like we're a group of friends and ignore the fact we're married.
I don't want to sound like a dick, and I do feel like one, but I can't shake the feeling that this sort of "us" dynamic with a single friend like him has to change. He needs to do his own thing.
It's very unlikely that if I'm planning a vacation with my wife that he's in the equation, especially if we have kids in the near future. Vacationing with coupled friends makes sense, because we're all doing our own thing but just happen to be doing it together…if that makes sense?
Well, just wanted to sense check myself, am I out of line here? Feel like I need to bring this up with my partner.