I (47M), just discovered my wife of 14 years is planning on leaving me (and she doesn’t know I know yet).
We have been having some issues for a while, and over the last couple of years I have tried to make working on our marriage a priority. She was a stay at home mom of our 2 kids and I could tell she was depressed. I encouraged her to start working again because I could see she felt isolated and thought more time away from our kids, with other adults would help. My job has crazy hours. She told me she was struggling with our relationship so I found us a marriage counselor. I also make sure she has time to go to the gym and time to go out with friends, because I know it helps her mental health.
I know I have longterm issues with anxiety and depression so I started seeing a therapist and got on meds to try and be my best self for her and our kids.
I never pry into her personal stuff but this morning my daughter was using her phone and asked to switch and use mine. I looked at her Google history, and found searches on *how to use bumble *how many days a year would a dad see his kids if he had them on the weekends *apartment searches
I’m so shook, I feel like I’m going to pass out. I feel like I just lost my world. I don’t have any friends where we live, and I’m not close with my family. Where do I go from here?