My sister has always been the feminine one. Long hair, soft spoken, red lips, red nails and all that. I was her opposite and we didn't have a good relationship. It wasn't that bad to cut contact because we did agree on the topics that mattered – like we took care of a grandma 50/50, helped each other in times of need. She married at 29 someone 16 years older than her. The managing director of the company she used to work for. So a guy who had 600 people under him. They have a very traditional marriage. She still works there but not in a managerial position and he still is basically the leader. She takes care of their 2 kids – yeah, at 30 years old she has 2 kids and he pushed for more although the baby daughter is a few months old only. He is always tired, upset. Sometimes I feel they are a bit disrespectful. On family dinners she often sits on his lap. Its a bit objectifying and I feel not appropiate.
But its their marriage, not mine. However, one day she called my husband woke. Because he earns way less than me and stays at home with our baby. I defended him immediately and she apologised to me. And a few days ago he had more drinks than usually. I don't allow him to drink. Like I told him I will not tolerate driking, as our father was a drunk. And he said to a friend that my sister is a nasty right w-ng b%%tch but she has big t…ts and I am flat. It was a reference to the whole Sydney Sweeney scandal. He compared her to that woman saying that c-nservative women are usually hotter.
The next day we talked about it, he apologised and said he didn't mean it, but he is not used to drinking. It was just a joke. But now that I think about everything, I feel like my husband is a bit envious of my brother in law.