My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We started dating during my senior year of high school and his junior year (we’re only six months apart). The first year was great, but after he graduated, he decided to join the army. We both knew long distance would be tough, but during basic training and AIT things went okay overall and we stayed close.
The original plan was to move in together once he got back, but instead, he decided to move back in with his parents across the country. A few months after he finished AIT, our relationship started falling apart. When I flew out to visit him, I found out he had been talking to people on over 20 different dating apps. He swore it was just conversations and that he never met up with anyone. As dumb as it sounds, I believed him because I loved him.
Eventually, we did move in together and he promised to go to therapy and work on himself. Things seemed better for a while, until I discovered he was texting other girls again. I tried to move past it because I still cared about him, and not long after, he got deployed overseas. He told me he’d keep up with therapy and make an effort to call every day, but lately it feels like he’s doing the bare minimum. We exchange a few texts here and there, but we rarely talk or plan calls like we used to.
From what I can tell, he’s only been to one therapy appointment a couple of months ago. I haven’t seen any signs of cheating this time, but I’ve never felt more disconnected from him. I’ve been trying to stay hopeful, but it’s been really hard feeling like I’m the only one putting in effort.
Just needed to get this off my chest, it’s been a lot to process lately. I really don't know what choice I should make moving forward.